Love, Sex ‘n Shit: Dating Multiple Women

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Why get love and sex advice from one person when you can benefit from the wisdom of two. Goofy Welldone and Miss K are here to help. Today’s topic: dating multiple women

Dear Forget The Box,

I’ve recently met a couple of women, both of whom I liked. I met them around the same time and have only dated each of them a few times so far. Then I met a THIRD girl. Now I’m dating, and sleeping with, all three. I haven’t known these women long enough to figure out if I want to pursue something more serious with any of them and, honestly, I’m really enjoying myself in the mean time. I haven’t mentioned to any of them that we’re not exclusive, but the question hasn’t come up either, so I don’t really feel like I’ve lied to them. Honestly though, I think if they find out they might not be too happy about it.

Do you have any advice on how to successfully date more than one person at a time?

Sincerely,

– A Lucky Fucker

Here’s my advice A Lucky Fucker: Don’t do it! Why do you want to date multiple women at once ? You’re just setting your self up for lots of drama. Follow my advice and just date one at a time for a short period of time. Don’t force yourself into multiple relationships that will only mean double or triple the listening, attention, money and lies that you will have to shell out in order not to cause more drama.

If you don’t love them you can still have sex with them, but don’t make any sort of commitment even under heavy pussy pressure. It’s important to understand that if you’re dating these girls, you’ll have to spend money to take them out to restaurants, to parties, you’ll have to buy them gifts…Some women you can get away with only spending a couple of bucks on, but others will require things like a nice hotel room and a nice restaurant. Are you sure you want to sign up for that ?

Should you still feel the urge and find yourself in a situation where you’re dating multiple women at once, be honest about everything except the other women. They don’t have to know if you’re not in a relationship with them.

Keep it casual, avoid chilling with any of their friends or family. Also avoid Facebook as much as possible and deactivate the tagging function.

If one of your girlfriends asks if you’re dating other women just go Zambito style and answer: I can’t confirm that and I can’t exclude it! And never, EVER tell them you love them. If you want to be successful in dating multiple women at once you cannot fall in love in the process. Should you get caught dating all these chics at once either run for your life and save yourself the public embarrassment, or keep a strait face, deny everything and call everybody a liar. If she’s not that smart and you’re extremely good in bed she might eat it.

– Goofy

 

Here’s MY advice A Lucky Fucker: Don’t listen to Goofy! It’s not 1955 anymore, so you don’t have to spend a bunch of money to impress a girl, ’cause most of us are a LOT more impressed by things like respect, intelligence, humour and good conversation. You know, the important shit.

And gee golly gosh, now that we’re allowed to go out and make our own money (can you believe it?), we can pay for our own dinner too! Don’t get me wrong, I like it when a guy pays for dinner or whatever when we go out, but I also like to be the one to treat sometimes. It’s the fucking millenium for chrissakes!

Ok, back to your question: it’s perfectly acceptable for you to be involved with more than one woman at a time, but (and listen carefully now) ONLY IF YOU’RE HONEST ABOUT IT! Being dishonest and/or evasive is super shady and ends up making you look like a dick.

If you’re not yet sure if you want to get serious with any of these chicks, just tell them you’re dating but you’re not ready to commit to anyone yet. If they’re grown-ups, they should understand that you haven’t known each other for long. Hell, they might even be in the same position as you. Or maybe they’ll decide to walk away.

Either way, these women have the right to know what the situation is and have the right to choose whether or not it’s something they can deal with. If you lie, you take that choice away and, as you said, if they ever find out they probably won’t be too happy about it. Also, if I were you I would take into consideration that trust is probably the most important ingredient in a successful relationship, and once you loose it, it’s damn near impossible to get it back.

It sounds like you’re open to idea of possibly pursuing a relationship with one of these chicas down the road, so don’t fuck it up by being a dishonest jerk. Be a good man and show these ladies the respect they deserve. You’ll feel better about yourself, they’ll feel better about you and you’ ll (hopefully) still get to hang out with them naked.

– Miss K

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